7 things I learned in my first week of being a soccer mom
When I’d been a soccer mom for little more than a week, I naturally came to the conclusion I knew every ever loving thing about being a soccer mom. Ahem. Not quite. Here are 7 things I learned in my first week of being a soccer mom.
I urged my husband to sign our kids up for soccer when they were six because I thought it was important for them to learn the basics of playing sports and most importantly, how to be members of a team. I didn’t expect to be the one who learned stuff but color me surprised.
I learned stuff.
Things I learned in my first week of being a soccer mom
1. Leave extra early
If you’re perpetually late for every other thing in your life, make sure your kids get to their games and practices on time. The coach is (most likely) a working parent who is juggling his or her schedule to be available for your kids. Do them the courtesy of getting your small human to where they’re supposed to be on time.Confession: we were late to our kids’ first soccer game. Actually we were right on time but the coach’s instructions at the first practice were “be 15 minutes early.” See also follow the coach’s instructions.
The kids need to arrive early to their game to receive the coach’s instructions and go through their warm up drills. You also do not need to stress the coach out by making them worry that they won’t have enough players because your kid prances onto the field at the eleventh hour.
Not cool. Lesson learned.
2. It’s all about the chair
Getting a soccer mom chair is a rite of passage. And yes, eyeing the other soccer moms’ chairs and comparing them to your soccer mom chair is totally normal.
Invest a few bucks in a good chair. We have a “loveseat” style chair with attached umbrellas and drink holders. And yes, we’re totally okay with being a suburban cliché.
3. Shut up and clap
I absolutely LOVE this 2-minute drill video clip with Jason Taylor:
I love this guy. Sorry Jason, we root for the Detroit Lions in this house but I’ll still shut up and clap for you.
I watched this video right before my kids’ first game and “shut up and clap” is the best mother fluffing advice for sports parents ever. Seriously, moms and dads. Shut up and clap. Shut. Up. And. Clap.
4. There’s a lot of stuff
Chairs, coolers, balls, extra clothes, bug spray, sunscreen…okay it might not sound like a lot of stuff but it is a lot of stuff.
You want to be the mom that has all the stuff. First aid kit? Extra water? Insect repellent? Baby wipes? Bandaids?
There is something rewarding in being that mom who anticipates every possible scenario. It’s also worthwhile to make new friends with people who will see you as someone they want to be aligned with in the event of a zombie apocalypse. Ha ha – kidding…but carry some extra waters and slap a good first aid kit in your glove box. At some point you’re going to be the mom in need so making an effort to be that well-stocked mom will tip the karmic scale in your favor.
5. Say “thank you” and “what can I do?”
Your kid’s soccer coach is a volunteer. They have a job and a family and a bazillion other things they want to and need to be doing besides teaching your little snowflake the basics of a sport. Tell them thank you after every practice and every game. They are giving their time and talents to your child and the least you can do is show them a little gratitude.
Ask what you can do every now and then. It might be as simple as sending an email or buying a case of water for the team. Your offer of help might be met with a “thanks, I’ve got it.” But always offer. It means more than you think.
6. It’s all about the snacks
If it’s your turn to bring the snack, make it your mission in life not to forget. See also, make said snack awesome.
Check out Pinterest to give you some ideas for soccer snacks but you don’t have to go crafty mama crazy to be an awesome snack mom. Our most recent team snack was sliced green apples and chunks of cheddar cheese and the kids loved it. We also skewered orange slices and grapes on cake pop sticks from the cake decorating aisle at Walmart. But whatever you do, don’t forget the snacks.
I have been a soccer Mom for 6 years now and this advice is great but I can think of some more. Cheer for the other team too Always cheer no matter what the kids do on the field.
Play to the referee. They are always right (even when they are wrong) and never argue with them to tell them to make a play. Most of them (at least for us) are young teenagers and still learning the rules. Treat them as if it is your teenager out there. I cannot tell you how many parents and even coaches will go out and yell and argue with a referee who is 14!!!!!
Soccer(or any sport) should be fun, if the kids had fun playing (even if they are just playing in the mud puddles during the game) then it was a good game no matter what the score is.
There are many more that I have learned over the years but these are the most important.
Clapping for the other team – YES! Our games are reffed by the coaches but the last league we played in had teens reffing. I cannot even imagine someone yelling at them.
Congrats on being part of the soccer mom club!! You must have much nicer weather than we do – we’re already in our winter coats here! ha! Great advice all around – you must be a quick learner 😉
We always leave extra early for everything! And, it is definitely about the snacks!
Excellent tips Jill,
Attending kids Game can be fun and also tense but following those tips will make it more fun.
Going to be a new soccer mom this coming March and looking forward to it! Thank you for all the tips, I feel like I can really be prepared!
– Lisa @ Mom Wife Design Life Blog
Enjoy! It’s a lot of fun to watch when they’re just learning.